It’s pretty rare that you go through life without having some sort of negative experience. In the beginning stages of your life, if you don’t have a positive experience, there’s a good reason why. There’s a pretty good chance that you’re going to have a negative one. The good news is that most of the negative experiences don’t last.
I’m going to be the first to admit that I was a very happy 40-year-old. I went to a number of parties, had a great job, and got some of the best girlfriends I ever had.
I know what you’re thinking, “You’re going to find that you’re way more happy being 40 than you were just a few years ago.” Well, it’s true. But that’s not what I’m talking about. The point I’m making is that the way your life can change after 40 is because of your actions.
Im not saying that you have to be a slob to be happy after 40. But if youre one of the many people who has had to go full-on slobberknocker, don’t expect to be any happier after 40. The only way to change your life after 40 is to change your actions.
Here is a way to look at it: When you reach age 40, you are no longer the same person who was 30. You have had many life changes, but the one thing you have not had to change is your actions. You can become a slacker in your 40s. But the one thing you can never change is what you did in your 30s. If you do something in your 30s that you regret later in your 40s, you can never undo it.
the most powerful life change you can ever make is to change the way you live. The only way to do that is to change your actions. Because if you don’t do something in your 40s, you will never get it right.
40 is the age when you stop growing, the age when you stop learning, the age when you stop trying to accomplish something because you think you are never gonna accomplish it. That is when you stop growing. Everything changes once you stop doing something. When you stop trying to get what you want, you stop trying to accomplish anything. You become your own most powerful self and only your actions matter.
After 40, you can build your own life. It’s easier for you to build your own life than to create it. All you have to do is take your time and it’s easy. You can build a life.
You just need to stop being a busybody and start being a life-builder. You’re not going to accomplish anything. You can’t accomplish anything if you aren’t doing it. It’s like when you’re in a relationship and you’re doing everything you can to get through the day and then you stop. You don’t have to do anything anymore. You can just do what you want and stop caring about anyone else.
The same thing goes here. Its easy to say, “I’ll do what I want, whenever I want, and stop caring about anything else.” That makes sense. But actually, it’s not that simple. Sure, you want to do all the things you want, but you have no idea what you’re doing. It’s like riding a bike where you don’t really know how it’s going to go. You don’t really know how it’s going to go for you.